BioWare’s David Gaider Sticks Up For Same-Sex Romance In Gaming

Dragon Age 2
Some of the BioWare fans amongst us may be aware of a lengthy debate on the official forums surrounding same-sex romance in Dragon Age 2. There was a huge amount of conversation and controversy in the individual thread, with players both supporting and criticizing the feature. Here is the original post that began the entire debate:

To summarize, in the case of Dragon Age 2, BioWare neglected their main demographic: The Straight Male Gamer.

I don’t think many would argue with the fact that the overwhelming majority of RPG gamers are indeed straight and male. Sure, there are a substantial amount of women who play video games, but they’re usually gamers who play games like The Sims, rather than games like Dragon Age. That’s not to say there isn’t a significant number of women who play Dragon Age and that BioWare should forgo the option of playing as a women altogether, but there should have been much more focus in on making sure us male gamers were happy.

Now immediately I’m sure that some male gamers are going to be like “YOU DON’T SPEAK FOR ME! I LOVE DRAGON AGE 2!”, but you have to understand, the Straight Male Gamer, cannot be just lumped into a single category.

Its ridiculous that I even have to use a term like Straight Male Gamer

On most forums that I frequent this post would have been removed before anyone was even able to hit that reply button. However, Bethesda chose to respond in a very different manner.

The romances in the game are not for “the straight male gamer”. They’re for everyone. We have a lot of fans, many of whom are neither straight nor male, and they deserve no less attention. We have good numbers, after all, on the number of people who actually used similar sorts of content in DAO and thus don’t need to resort to anecdotal evidence to support our idea that their numbers are not insignificant… and that’s ignoring the idea that they don’t have just as much right to play the kind of game they wish as anyone else. The “rights” of anyone with regards to a game are murky at best, but anyone who takes that stance must apply it equally to both the minority as well as the majority. The majority has no inherent “right” to get more options than anyone else.

More than that, I would question anyone deciding they speak for “the straight male gamer” just as much as someone claiming they speak for “all RPG fans”, “all female fans” or even “all gay fans”. You don’t. If you wish to express your personal desires, then do so. I have no doubt that any opinion expressed on these forums is shared by many others, but since none of them have elected a spokesperson you’re better off not trying to be one. If your attempt is to convince BioWare developers, I can tell you that you do in fact make your opinion less convincing by doing so.

And if there is any doubt why such an opinion might be met with hostility, it has to do with privilege. You can write it off as “political correctness” if you wish, but the truth is that privilege always lies with the majority. They’re so used to being catered to that they see the lack of catering as an imbalance. They don’t see anything wrong with having things set up to suit them, what’s everyone’s fuss all about? That’s the way it should be, any everyone else should be used to not getting what they want.

I honestly couldn’t stop laughing when I read the initial message on that forum post. Gamers come from all walks of life and we all deserve the very best gaming experience available. David Gaider definitely won some upvotes following his reply.



  • MuteSlayer

    I’m proud of BioWare. I’m an SMG, and I am really happy that there are same-sex romance options. I don’t take part in them, but I currently have a female human, and I’m trying to get in bed with Iron Bull as I type this. If people have a problem with an OPTION (not a requirement) to have a same-sex romance in a game, then they’re kind of pathetic, in my opinion. Or their parents/guardians are.